在心理学家看来，同性恋的爱情和其他人没有区别；在张北川看来，他们需要的只是社会的宽容和理解；在不为大多数人了解的同志圈子里，他们成立互助小组，为自己和他人的健康奔走。通过旁观者的眼睛，请近距离了解他们。
阳光志愿者
帮助别人也是帮助自己
阳光、蓝天、关爱，记者发现很多同志互助组的名字中都含有这些包容、温暖的词语。“我们希望能够让大家感受到这个群体阳光、正面的一面。”37岁的夜雨已经在青岛阳光志愿者工作组服务了六年，他所在的工作组作为中盖项目在青岛的实施机构，为同志群体提供免费的艾滋病自愿咨询和检测服务。“我们需要通过网络和组织活动，呼吁更多的同志自愿去进行免费检测，我们所有的工作人员都是志愿者，利用假期和晚上的时间进行这些工作。”夜雨坦然自己也是一名同志，而正因为自己是，所以更深刻地认识到对这个群体进行疾病防御的必要，“一是对这个圈子内每个人的健康负责，同时也是为了能够更好获得社会的认同。”同时，夜雨还透露很多防止疾病实施机构的骨干力量都是同志人群。
夜雨告诉记者，现在自己在小组中的主要工作是接听咨询电话，定期组织同志人群进行一些文化体育活动，他说其实每一次组织活动都是为了一个目的，那就是把健康的信息渗透、传递到参与者当中，他们称这种互助行为为“同伴教育”。“这么多年我们开展工作遇到的最大困难就是怎么把人吸引过来，很多人因为担心自己的同志身份暴露，或者是存在恐艾心理，不愿意接受基金免费提供的疾病检测，可这本来就是为自己健康考虑的事儿，现在却需要我们大力召集，部分工作组还会采取体检就能领取补助的方式来吸引更多的同志定期进行检测。”
“其实我们从事这些工作，在帮助别人的同时也是在帮助自己。”夜雨说，许多同志由于参与了防止疾病方面的工作，从内向悲观、不愿与人交际变得开朗乐观，并且有机会掌握了更多自我健康保护的知识。“我很感谢这份志愿者的工作，但我们这些互助基本上在圈子内部进行，处于与外界隔绝的状态，在做好这些工作的同时，也希望社会向我们这个群体投来更多关注的目光，及客观的对待。”
心理专家
同性恋和异性恋的爱情没有区别
“同性恋是指一个人无论在性爱、心理、情感及社交上的兴趣，主要对象均为同性别的人。”八大关街道办事处馨海绿洲心理服务机构心理咨询师尚鹏介绍说，国际上采用“阿尔弗雷德——金塞性取向分级标准”，分为0～6级。0级是绝对的异性恋者，6级是绝对的同性恋者。3级是双性恋者 ，他们既喜欢同性也喜欢异性。抛开传统的价值观来看，同性恋和异性恋之间的情感没有任何区别。恋爱过程、恋爱感受都和异性恋相同，没有高贵、低贱的区分。
同性恋究竟是天生的还是后天形成的？尚鹏认为：心理学上这两种情况都存在。对后者来讲，同性恋者在成长环境中，对自我性别身份出现认同偏差。很多同性恋在成长的过程中，家长可能把女孩当男孩养，或者把男孩当女孩养，造成自我认知偏离。还有一种情况，男孩的周围都是女性，就会比较认同女性的身份角色，由于生活当中缺少男性的性别认同，所以长大后就会排斥女性，喜欢男性。这种成长环境导致的情况，属于社会性遗传。
“人类的性取向是逐渐由未分化走向分化的。诞生了人类文明后，人类繁衍处于很重要的地位，生殖文化普遍被社会所接受，同性恋就不被认同了。”尚鹏介绍说，同性恋改变起来比较困难，从临床当中我们发现很多同性恋者没有意愿改变。一个人的性取向，有深刻的生物学、性心理因素的制约，是一种人格特性。目前到心理诊所咨询的同性恋人群，要求改变性取向的很少，基本上还是因为恋爱当中遇到的情感问题前来求助的。
记者手记
还有很远的路要走
因为网络论坛上一篇“同妻”的自述，我们开始了这个策划，希望走近同性恋群体和他们周边的人们，向读者展现我们的观察和思考。“同性恋”这个词对所有人来说都不陌生，然而提起它时的口气，戏谑的、鄙夷的、甚至厌恶的，大多不够友好。在采访伊始，我们不知应该怎样定位自己的态度和角度，第一次采访同志前，也因为怕无心说错话伤害到他们而忐忑。然而近些天，在跟几位同志、同妻 、同志互助小组的工作人员，以及张北川老师接触后，我们深深地感到，在外界妖魔化的揣测和窥探背后，他们太需要一个自由呼吸的空间和周围人平常心的看待。
和他们交谈的地点，大多选在幽静的咖啡厅，见报时用的名字，也总是要经过再三斟酌。他们的感情其实和你、和我，和所有人都没有区别 ，但是仅仅因为他们把这份爱倾注到了同性的身上，就要付出高出其他人无数倍的代价来捍卫它 ，承受不解和责难。在周围压抑的环境里，他们中的许多人迫不得已作出妥协，和毫不知情的女性结婚，把悲剧的独舞跳成了双人舞。试想，当你睡意朦胧不小心碰到了丈夫的胳膊，却被对方狠狠地推开时，那会是怎样的悲伤和绝望？
张北川是国内奔走在关注同性恋、艾滋病最前沿的战士，在只有两间屋子的工作室里，这位花甲之年的老人点上一根香烟吸几口，又开始伏案工作。下午五点多，张北川锁上工作室的门结束了一天的工作，前方，还有很远的路要走。
◎张北川
平常心看待同性恋
“GAY要以平常心看待自己，少年人不要过早地给自己戴上GAY或非GAY的帽子，有好奇心的话，跟着感觉走很重要。”张北川老师建议，同志人群要积极地和同类人交往，如果抑制自己不交往，就容易出现“错爱”，比如爱上非GAY的同事、爱上同学。就像一个异性恋的男孩，如果阻止他和姑娘交往，也会造成很多问题。在积极交往的同时，还要慎重交往，因为现在出现了疾病传播的问题，圈子里也不可避免会有坏人。第三，用科学武装自己，淡化对自己性向的过度认识，淡化对社会上性向歧视的看法，允许别人有一个认识发展的空间。
张北川提出，社会，特别是家长发现孩子是同性恋时，应该以平常心来看待。曾经有一个例子，一个小伙子的家长知道孩子是同性恋后，为他安排了一系列的“改造”计划，包括参加两档电视相亲节目、全家出动的亲情旅行、还带他到医院去看病，喝补肾、败火的中药等，让人哭笑不得。“这种心理不是本人意志可以操纵的，也不是本人愿望可以改变的，更不是家人的愿望可以改变的。这是个人的选择权，社会应该尊重，特别要避免伤害。”
5月17日是国际反恐同日，但是只有很少人知道和支持这一天。今年的这一天，联合国艾滋病规划署专门进行了宣传。张北川解释说，所谓“恐同”指两种情况。一种叫“同性恋恐惧症”，被同性摸一下就浑身起鸡皮疙瘩；大多数的恐惧，是由无知和愚昧造成的，比如有些人认为，和同性恋接触后，会被“传染”。张北川表示，我国的文化从古到今宣扬“和”的思想，“己所不欲，勿施于人”，要给人选择幸福的权利。也许，我们身边的同事是，相处多年的朋友是，这个时候，要尽量避免伤害他们。如果知道周围的人是同性恋，不要张扬，可能他在某些行为上和我们有些不一样，可能他有些女性气质，但是另一方面，也可以说明他很细心。“我特别希望媒体积极地宣传科学，学校教育科学，全社会多角度、全方位地把这些科学理念告诉大众，告诉给青年人，告诉这些GAY。这不光对GAY好，对全社会也好。”记者 黄默 田歌颖
（来源：半岛网-城市信报）
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Love and fear of homosexuality is no different from ordinary people do not want to detect exposure to AIDS http://www.sina.com.cn 2011 年 06 月 29 日 00:20 Peninsula Network - Urban Economic Journal
Psychologists view, gay love, and others no difference; Zhang Beichuan, it seems they need is social tolerance and understanding; not for most people to understand the circle of comrades, they set up support groups for the health of themselves and others running. Through the spectator's eyes, close look at them.
Sunshine Volunteer
Is to help others help themselves
Sun, blue sky, love, reporters found that many comrades in the name of mutual aid contain these inclusive, warm words. "We want this group so that everyone can feel the sun, the positive side." Night rain had 37-year-old volunteer in Qingdao Sunshine Working Group on Services for six years, where he covered the Working Group as the implementing agency for the project in Qingdao, Comrade groups to provide free HIV voluntary counseling and testing services. "We need to network and organize activities, called for more comrades to carry out voluntary free testing, all our staff are volunteers, and the use of vacation time for such work at night." Night rain is a calm their comrades, And because they are so more profound understanding of this group is necessary for disease defense, "First, everyone in this circle is responsible for the health, but also to better access to social identity." Meanwhile, the night rain also revealed that many of the implementing agencies to prevent the disease are the backbone of Comrade crowd.
Night rain, told reporters that his main work in the group is to answer the telephone consultation, some people regularly organize comrades cultural and sports activities, he said that in fact every activity is organized for a purpose, which is the penetration of health information, were delivered to the participants, they call this mutual act as "peer education." "We work so many years the greatest difficulty is how to attract people over, many people worry about their comrades identity exposed, or there is the psychological fear of AIDS, unwilling to accept the funds free of disease detection, but this has always been to thing to consider their own health, but now we need to strongly call, part of the work group will be able to receive benefits to physical way to attract more comrades regular testing. "
"In fact, we engaged in such work, but also in helping others help themselves." Night rain that many comrades involved in the prevention of diseases because of work, from within the pessimistic, do not want to become cheerful and optimistic person communication, and have the opportunity to mastered the knowledge of more self-health protection. "I am very grateful to the volunteers, but those of us within the circle of mutual basically, in the isolated state, do a good job, but also hope that our group to vote to pay more attention to the eyes, and objective treatment. "
Psychologist
Homosexual and heterosexual love is no different
"Homosexuality refers to a person in terms of sexual, psychological, emotional and social interest on, the main target are the same sex." Xin Hai oasis mall neighborhood offices psychological services counselor, said Shang Peng, international the use of "Alfred - Kinsey sexual orientation, grading standards", divided into 0 to 6. 0 is absolutely heterosexual, homosexual 6 absolute. 3 is a bisexual, they both like the same sex like the opposite sex. Set aside traditional values point of view, between homosexual and heterosexual feelings without any distinction. Love the process, and heterosexual love are the same feelings, not noble, humble distinction.
Is homosexuality innate or acquired form? Shang Peng said: psychology, both of which exist. The latter is concerned, homosexuals in the growth environment, the emergence of self-identity gender identity bias. A lot of growing up gay in the process, parents may raise the girl as a boy, or girl raised when the boy, causing deviation from self-awareness. In another case, a boy surrounded by women, will be more agreeable to the identity of the role of women, because of living in which the lack of male gender identity, so they grow up will be excluded women, like men. This situation led to the growth environment, part of social inheritance.
"Human sexual orientation is towards the gradual differentiation from the undifferentiated. After the birth of human civilization, human reproduction is a very important role in reproductive culture generally accepted by the society, homosexuality has not been recognized." Shang Peng said, homosexuality more difficult to change, which we found from clinical homosexuals have no desire to change a lot. A person's sexual orientation, have a profound biological, psychological factors, a personality characteristic. Present to the psychological clinic counseling gay people, to change sexual orientation rarely, basically because of emotional problems encountered love to come to them for help.
Reporter's notes
Is still a long way to go
Because the network on a forum "with the wife" readme, we started planning this, I hope they approached the gay community and people around, to show our readers to observe and think. "Gay" the word is not familiar to everyone, but to bring the tone of it, joking, contempt, even disgust, mostly unfriendly. In the interview at the beginning, we do not know how their own attitudes and orientation angle, the former comrades of the first interview, but also for fear of inadvertently say the wrong things to hurt them and ill at ease. However, in recent days, with a few comrades, with his wife, gay support groups of staff, and teachers access to Zhang Beichuan, we deeply feel that the demonization of speculation and spy on the outside world behind, they too need a free breathing space and unbiased look at the people around them.
And talk to them the place, most of the election in a quiet cafe, when the newspapers with the name, always appropriate to go through again. In fact, their feelings, and you and I, and everyone there is no difference, but just because they have devoted to the love of the same sex who have to pay several times higher than the cost of other people not to defend it, understand and bear blame. Suppressed in the surrounding environment, many of them were forced to compromise, and without the knowledge of married women, the tragedy became a solo dance pas de deux. Just think, when you accidentally hit sleepy husband's arm, when he was pushing each other fiercely, that would be kind of sadness and despair?
Zhang Beichuan is running in the domestic concerns homosexuality, AIDS, the most cutting-edge fighters, only two rooms in the studio, the sixtieth year old smoking a cigarette on a point a few mouthfuls, they began working at his desk. More than five p.m., Zhang Beichuan locked the studio door end of the day's work ahead, there is still a long way to go.
◎ Zhang Beichuan
Unbiased view of homosexuality
"GAY to be normal to look at themselves, to their teenagers do not wear prematurely or GAY GAY hat, curious, then, one thinks is important." Zhang Beichuan teacher suggested that gay people should actively and similar people, if they do not inhibit the interaction, it is prone to "indulgence", such as non-GAY colleagues love, fall in love with the students. As a heterosexual boy, if he and the girl to stop exchanges, can also cause many problems. On the positive interaction, we must also carefully exchanges, because there has been the spread of disease problems, inevitably there will be bad circle. Third, the scientific arm themselves, play down their excessive understanding of sexual orientation, dilute the community's views on sexual orientation discrimination, allow others to have an understanding of development.
Zhangbei Chuanti out community, especially parents, that child is gay, it should be normal to look at. There was an example of a young man's parents know their children are gay, in order that he arranged a series of "transformation" program, including participation in two tranches of television hit shows, the whole family out of family travel, but also take him to the hospital to see the doctor, drink kidney, relieve inflammation of Chinese medicine, a dilemma. "I will not be this kind of psychological manipulation, nor is my desire to change, more than the desire to change the family, this is a personal choice, should respect the community, in particular, to avoid injury."
May 17 is the international counter-terrorism on the same day, but only few people know and support this day. This year this day, UNAIDS conducted a special promotion. Zhang Beichuan, explained that the so-called "homophobia" means two cases. Called "homophobia", is same-sex touch it creeps; most of the fear caused by ignorance and ignorance, such as some people think, and homosexual contact, would be "contagious." Said Zhang Beichuan, China's culture since ancient times to promote "and" thinking, "Do unto others, do not impose on others", people should be given the right to choose happiness. Perhaps my colleagues around us is getting along friends for many years, this time to avoid harm to them. If you know the people around is gay, not publicity, he might in some behavior, and we are somewhat different, some women may be his temperament, but on the other hand, can also be that he is very careful. "I particularly hope that the media actively promote science, schools, education, science, society as a whole multi-angle, full integration of these scientific ideas to tell the public, to tell young people, telling them GAY. This is not only good for GAY, Ye Hao of the whole society. "Reporters Huang Tian Ge Ying
(Source: Peninsula Network - Urban Economic Journal)>>
